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- November 13, 2017 /
- by Stonebriar Counseling Associates /
- counseling, marriage help /
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There comes a time in your life when you meet someone and fall head over heels in love with them. Everything is perfect and you are happier than you have ever been. This is the person you decide to marry and spend the rest of your life with. It feels like a fairytale. This feeling could even go on for the first year or two of your marriage. Unfortunately, that can’t last forever. Things aren’t always going to perfect. Sure, this feeling may come and go, as it should. This is the person you love, but life is much more complicated than that. Things happen. Neither of you is perfect. You will both make mistakes. That is inevitable.
When you move in with someone, you see things about them that you never saw before. You learn all of their bad habits. You are probably used to seeing them at their best, but now you get to see them at their worst.
Your problems are now their problems, and you are one now. Life is going to get hard. There will be many struggles along the way such as the stresses of everyday life including children, finances, or grocery shopping. Even managing the household chores can get stressful. It is challenging to balance your work life, your home life, and your relationship.
In order to maintain a happy marriage, here are a few marriage help suggestions that should keep you on track.
1. Never stop dating.
Just because you are married doesn’t mean you should stop dating each other. It is still very important to make spending time together a priority. It is also nice to still get dressed up and go out.
2. Surprise each other.
This is something that should never fade. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes work from both partners in order to keep the flame burning. This doesn’t mean that you have to buy each other something. You can leave a note on their car or make them a card. You could even just find a sweet song and send it to them in a text message. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you make them feel special. If both of you strive to do this, it will help your bond stay together.
This cannot be stressed enough. You have to communicate with your partner about how you feel about things. If something is bothering you, tell them. If something makes you happy, tell them. Regardless how amazing a marriage may be, failure to communicate will only result in a failed marriage.
4. Never go to bed upset.
You may spend some nights getting little to no sleep because you are up arguing. But don’t go to sleep letting your partner think you are mad at them. It is very painful to have to stay up all night wondering what you mean to someone. Instead of arguing, try to apologize, even if you weren’t in the wrong. Sometimes it is better to suck up your pride than to just want to win an argument. Remember, they are supposed to be your teammate, but your opponent.
5. Have a set of rules.
This should include almost everything. Decide who is going to do the chores and when. Are you going to split them? Will one of you be assigned certain tasks? It is all about balance and you need to work together as a team.
These are only a few tips for a successful marriage. Stay tuned to see more! Please contact us if you would like more information on restoring your relationship.